School Age

"Children do not need to be made to learn about the world, or shown how. They want to and they know how." John Holt

As Lyra grows up and starts to look old enough to attend  school, almost every where we go that question has started from peering adults who ask "Why aren't you in School? I used to answer "I am a forty year old midget".  I haven't taught her that one, yet.  And so, I have started thinking of a my old childhood as a homeschooler or un-schooler. Homeschooling in itself  is just like trying to describe family life, every family is so different you can't capture it accurately.  My experience has moments I can remember better than describing the whole. 

Lying under the chair in the living room floor looking up at the little nails poking through the upholstery  while my mom reads us, Water Babies, hoping that my little sister ,Emily, will fall asleep on the breast, because than we get at least three more chapters. 

Lying on my stomach in the hay filling out questions in my Math book, mostly just patting the cat, because I have been set to the barn on account of my behaviour.

 Learning numbers with a purple gnome while picking up special rocks at the beach, I remember realizing ,than, what more than 12 or 20 looked like and suddenly it made sense it was something of substance. 

These are just little moments but they are the things I am recalling at this moment. 

There are also moments from being an adult at Farmhouse, which was an free school  I worked for about five years. 

Playing with children as they worked though complex problems using something as simple as a felt gnome, these aren't math problems, more social, emotional. 

Watching a child who used to hind under a blanket gain confidence in themselves through theatre and song and to watch them take the stage in a leading role, amazing everyone. 

So when I think about homeschooling Lyra, it's just an evolution of what we are doing now, day to day life, trying to get everyone feed, dressed and outside to play. It doesn't mean I'm not overwhelmed by the challenge of relearning and teaching, or that I don't have fears or concerns. But I have been given tools and the gift of a childhood and that is something I would like to pass on. 

So in true homeschool fashion I have posed a question to my family and friend asking them what they appreciated  about their un-schooling and homeschooling upbringings or experiences.   Here are their answers. 

"Homeschooling was undoubtedly the most beneficial thing I have accomplished in my admittedly short life. It has handed me the skills and knowledge I need to keep on learning, and to enjoy the process of that learning. I have never felt more free or well rounded, and I know that I would be much worse off had I stayed in public education from start to finish" 

Sophie Whittingham, age 16 

When I talk about homeschooling/unschooling with people, I always bring up the same points over and over again.  The kids realize how much the LOVE to learn (actually how much we all love to learn) and that they become SELF DIRECTED LEARNERS. This seems to be the biggest point for us - they realize they love to learn (put subject in here), know how to seek out people or information on how to learn it, and learn the crap out of it. We tended to do project oriented learning - notice that I mention the pronoun WE. That was key to our success. 

We learned together.

Andrea Blaseckie, Mother of two 

Because it taught me how to work hard for what I am interested in, and think of creative ways to do things!

Jordyn Lindsey - 16 

"Freedom to explore, freedom to discover, no stress and learning things that are relevant in life."Thomas age 14

"The reason that I am grateful I was homeschooled is that I have a firm conviction that my childhood and youth were spent growing and shaping the person I was and the person I became, I understood early that this is a lifelong challenge not to be dreaded but to be embraced as a priceless gift, this gift of learning, growing, changing, becoming. I have never once thought of my childhood as wasted or boring. I thank fully my education for allowing me to shape my being into what I desired to be and who I continue to try to be". Sarah Day – Unschooled Child, Mother of four

 “One thing that I've noticed as a common thread between adult homeschoolers is that we rarely (or never) have debt.   When you're trained from the beginning to seek out your own knowledge, and not consider it as held by the gatekeepers of universities, homeschooled folks usually only pay for education if they truly think it's worth it, and if they can afford it”. Jaron Freeman Fox- Homeschooled, musician 

I’m sad that I wasn't homeschooled. I had a unique and creative learning style that was not validated or honoured and was emotionally affected for a long long time as a result. Charlene Campbell LM CPM - Mother of five 

I loved homeschooling my children.  I loved spending time with them. I loved watching them run free on our farm and the island where they grew up. I loved their intensity as they studied topics they chose.  I love watching them be life long learners. I love watching 2 of my children homeschool their children. I love the freedom and the wisdom of my grandchildren. I love that my one daughter is now in University, acing it, loving it. I love that I am now taking University courses at my local college. Regrets, not a one.Mary Turner- Mother of three 

 As kids we were given the precious gift of time. Time is what is robbed from children in the current school system. How are kids in the highly structured conventional education system expected to learn to manage their time, find self direction and motivation and pursue extracurricular passions when almost every hour of their days are spoken for? We had supportive parents who encouraged us to try many things. "Just see if you enjoy it." Myself and my siblings all pursued very different interests, but each with passion and exuberance. And we excelled in them. Many times we received comments such as "you are such a gifted family". This is not true. We are very normal.. But we had the opportunity to focus on what we loved and run with it. Yes, we needed to learn to read, write, do math and compile information in a coherent fashion. But this comes quite easily when seen as a natural part of the learning continuum beginning at day one. The amount children learn in their first five years prior to school is astounding yet it is seemingly a smooth process. Myself and my husband were both home/un- schooled. To us childhood was an exciting time of infinite possibilities with the wonderus world ahead of us. There is no question what we will choose for our young son and future children. We eagerly look forward to watching them explore the world and find their passions, in their own good time. 

Miray Campbell – Unschooled child, Mother 

   My answer to the question "Why aren't you in school "?  "For freedoms sake, for educations sake."